Un-rigid Love!

May 23, 2009Katie


Here is Taylor again…I love that she messaged me on Facebook to tell me that she had a word from God!  I love it when young people have inspiration and are feeding their spirits.  I love it when a young lady has a voice in the world other than the line that society feeds them about what they should be.  Taylor is a strong-minded pure young woman who is always looking to find new insight about who she is …check out her latest one!

(Courtesy of Taylor Rednose)

1 John 4:16
” God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in Him.”

Rigid love is not true love.

It is veiled manipulation, a conditional time bomb that explodes when frustrated. Genuine love willingly waits! It isn’t pushy or demanding. While it has its limits, its boundaries are far-reaching. It neither clutches nor clings. Real love is not shortsighted, selfish, or insensitive. It detects needs and does what is best for the other person without being told. -Charles R. Swindoll

This helped me with a few friendships, because once me and a person really got close, negative thoughts would always come to my head and they made me find every little single thing wrong with the relationship.  Little things would make me frustrated and upset. I expected the relationship to be perfect, yet how is this possible when the relationship is between two imperfect people?

I would compare our relationship to other relationships the other person had and mentally tell myself that “you are in this relationship on your own”, when deep down I knew this was not the case. This person cares so deeply for me, but because of me being so hurt in the past, I wouldn’t allow myself joy in friendships any longer.

I was using rigid love, not the genuine love our God uses with us. I was demanding and pushy, trying to make our relationship something it wasn’t.

Each relationship and friendship is unique, its impossible to compare because they will not be similar.

You cannot look for your value through a relationship, you will never be satisfied, look to God. 

God is love-
Taylor Rednose

Awesome insight Taylor.  It’s so hard to see the way God does, but keep striving to see from His eyes.  Love everyone for who they are, not what you expect them to be.  


  • Eli

    November 14, 2009 at 9:37 pm

    good thoughts. I don't normally like swindoll, but this might be the exception.

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